When your mate struggles with insecurity

If you’re dealing with an insecure mate, you must make every effort to be accountable. It’s important to voluntarily provide adequate details. After all, he or she is looking for assurance. Learn to explain your whereabouts in a casual but thorough manner. Short, one-syllable responses will provide more insecurity and leave the person to imagine various negative scenarios. A jealous person is insecure and thus has doubts about having what it takes to maintain the relationship. Do not make the mistake of thinking or saying, “Tough – you just need to get over your insecurity.” If it were that easy, your mate would have done it by now. Continue to pray for their healing from this debilitating mindset, but do your part not to exacerbate the problem with vague communication. Most of all, encourage your partner to talk about his or her fears. Listen without being critical or judgmental. Seek first to understand. Make it clear that you love your mate and have pure intentions regarding your relationship. But here is something important to keep in mind: stay balanced in your interaction. You must also make it clear that you will not be forced into an emotional prison by having to account for every moment of the day. This too could exacerbate the jealousy and set up unrealistic expectations. Trust is a two-way street. And one way to build trust is by praying together. In prayer, we become honest and transparent, realizing that God already knows every detail about us. When your mate hears you share your heart in prayer, it relieves unfounded fears and creates security within them.