Keep Dad Always in Your Heart

A Father's Day Reflection

Regret, Reflection, and Remembering Dad

If there’s one regret I carry, it’s that I didn’t spend more time sailing with my father while I still had the chance. Life moved quickly—work, responsibilities, and the pursuit of my own path took me in different directions. But not a day goes by when I don’t wish for one more sail, one more conversation, one more moment with him.

As this Father’s Day approaches, I want to share this personal story in hopes that it resonates with those reflecting on their own relationships with their dads. Sometimes, the most meaningful memories come from the simplest moments shared together.

Reconnecting Through Sailing in Prince Edward County

In 2010, I made a decision that changed everything—I committed my weekends to sailing with my dad once again. Just like we had when I was a child, we made plans to sail on the waterways of Prince Edward County, revisiting the quiet coves and open lake that once felt like our own secret world.

Growing up, we’d often sail out to hidden shores, and sometimes even as far as Main Duck Island in Lake Ontario. This trip was always an adventure—about four hours depending on the wind—and we’d explore the now-abandoned lighthouse and stay the night on the island. (Fair warning if you go: the waters near the island are known for snakes, so swim with caution!)

A Perfect Day on the Water

That first sail of the season was unforgettable. We cruised out to the Glenora Ferry under clear skies and full sails. My mum had packed us Hungarian salami sandwiches with peppers on the side—dad’s favourite. I’ll never forget the joy on his face, the light in his eyes, and how at peace he seemed. He was back in his element, and I was right there with him.

He gently reminded me how to tack the sail and shared stories of family, love, and life. It was one of those rare days that felt like a gift—timeless, perfect, and deeply meaningful.

A Father’s Day That Came Too Soon

The following weekend was Father’s Day and I chauffeured my dad to his favourite restaurant—Red Lobster—where we filled our bellies with all the bounty of the sea (the Fisherman’s Feast was his favourite!) We made plans to go sailing the following weekend. But that sail never happened.

My Father's favourite spot down by the water, watching the sailboats meandering by the shoreline.

Finding Peace in God’s Timing

I wish we had the opportunity to go sailing one more time before my dad passed away. As with the loss of anyone close to us, I was heartbroken, angry and confused at God that He took my father  away from my family too soon. Why him? Why now?

God’s timing didn’t seem right to us.

“For everything there is a season; a time for every matter under heaven.” - Ecclesiastes 3:11

I wish I had an open heart at the time to fully realize how peaceful this verse is. Everything has its proper time and God’s plan is always unfolding in a beautiful way, even if we don’t fully understand it. God’s love for us is eternal.

Though I didn’t understand it at the time, I’ve come to believe that there’s a greater plan at work. My dad may be gone, but the love we shared—and those precious moments on the water—live on in my heart.

Cherish the Time You Have: A Message for Father’s Day

As you celebrate Father’s Day this year, whether your father is still by your side or watching over you from above, take a moment to reflect. Go for that sail. Make that call. Share that story. Time is a precious gift, and the love we show today become the memories we carry forever.

Even now, my father’s spirit guides me like the wind in our sails—quiet but powerful, always present. Keep your dad always in your heart, and never underestimate the impact of simply spending time together. The love you shared still travels with you, steady as a compass guiding you home.