Learning the hard way (2)

You’re asking for trouble when you choose the wrong friends. Somebody wisely said, “If you want to soar with eagles, you can’t run around with turkeys.” Eventually you become like the people you spend the most time with; that’s why it’s so important to choose your friends wisely. The psalmist said, “Blessed is the man who walks not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor stands in the path of sinners” (Psalm 1:1 NKJV). Samson developed unhealthy relationships, and they led him astray. So here’s the question: are your friends keeping you from living 100 percent for God? Do they tear you down or build you up? When you’re with them, do you find yourself conforming to things that violate your convictions and your conscience—things you don’t feel good about doing? The book of Proverbs warns us repeatedly about negative associations: “My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.” Constant exposure to wrong attitudes and values will eventually take its toll on your life. It is always easier to pull someone down than it is to lift them up. So what kind of friends should you keep? The kind who bring out the best in you, who lift you up, who encourage you, and make you a better person. “But aren’t we supposed to love everybody?” you ask. Yes, but you’re not supposed to lean on them, listen to them, learn their wrong ways, and become like them. When it comes to choosing your friends, here’s the scriptural rule you should live by: “[Lord,] I am a friend to anyone who fears [respects] you—anyone who obeys your commandments” (Psalm 119:63 NLT).